“Overly” Coarse & “Totally” Out of Control

Products For”Any” Type of Hair

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This weekend I was cleaning the house and turned on the T.V. so it could play in the background. The channel just so happened to be tuned to a hair product infomercial featuring a Caucasian woman and a lighter skinned woman of African descent.

The infomercial was for Chaz Dean’s Wen® product that (according to the website) promised a “A 5-in-1 formula [that] takes the place of your shampoo, conditioner, deep conditioner, detangler and leave-in conditioner.”

Ordinarily, I would have continued flipping the channel. But I had never seen a product that claimed to work on “any” type of hair so I was intrigued and kept watching.

Plus, I was struck by the fact that the Black woman had what looked like natural hair. She was actually rocking a super fly, twistie blow out style. Her hair looked a little dry, but it was essentially in a style that I and many of my natural-head sista friends wear often.

Kinda like this:

From her “before” picture, the Black woman, (let’s call her “Naja” – that might have actually been her character’s name but I can’t remember) had a hair texture that looked like it had a soft, curly kink to it. It was FAR from my own very tight nappy texture but I was so happy just to see brown skin rocking a natural on T.V. that I kept watching.

That is…I was happy until the infomercial narrator started talking.

Please note – I really am not interested in whether or not the product does what it says it can do. I went natural before the current explosion of natural hair products so I have never really been a product junkie. My biggest issue was with the words and the tones used to describe the nature of Naja’s hair – and what those words and tones mean for our collective self-esteem.

The Language of Nappiness

Naja and the White woman (let’s call her “Jen”) were seated next to each other in front of shampoo bowls. Jen’s blond hair was described with words like “brassy” and “limp.” To my eye, it just looked like she hadn’t brushed her hair that morning, but hey, who am I to judge?

But when they got to Naja, I began to feel that familiar irritation in the back of my neck. You know the feeling I’m talking about.

That feeling when you know something disrespectful is about to be said about nappiness and you’re just sort of waiting to see where the conversation goes…

So they fluff out Naja’s hair and start to describe her hair texture. They begin using phrases like really “dry” (she needed some moisturizer) “totally out of control” (it looked like a twistie blow out) and “overly coarse” and other such terms to explain her hair. After my mouth dropped open, I realized that it wasn’t just the words they were using (though the words were bad enough)…it was the tone behind the words.

That disapproving “your-hair-is-substandard” tone. That tone that says, not only does your hair have all of the typical hair problems of people with hair – but those problems are exacerbated by the fact that they stem from the very nature of your hair itself.

It’s the tone that epitomizes the sentiment that says Caucasian hair is the standard against which all other types of hair must be measured. It’s the tone that says the farther your hair is from Jen’s straight, blond hair, the farther down you are on the “good hair” hierarchy.

So whereas Jen was merely looking to refine her already fine hair, Naja’s hair needed to be tamed. Naja’s hair wasn’t just dry, it was totally out of control. While Jen’s hair goals had nothing to do with her hair’s texture, Naja’s hair texture was inherently wrong.

It wasn’t just “coarse” – it was overly coarse. Several definitions for the word Coarse include “rough to the touch,” “lacking in delicacy or refinement,” or  “of low, common, or inferior quality.”

You might as well just say Naja had the equivalent of what one thinks of when one hears the words “bad hair.” (Keep in mind, as shown on the commercial Naja’s hair looked naturally kinky – but it did not look like that “straight-from-the-mother-land-of-nappiness” type of kink.)

But I was willing to let those subliminally disrespectful messages slide…until I saw what the final result was aiming for.

After they washed in the chemicals the next scene showed the “after” images which you can see here. Jen had blonde, straight, healthy looking, Caucasian hair. I wasn’t sure what the product was supposed to have done for her, but her hair looked nicely combed.

That’s great.

But then they showed the end result for Naja. Her “after” picture is featured on the website on the bottom left hand side. Her hair looked like it was full of Shirley Temple curls. Like fat, curly ringlets, the kind my niece and her friends call “mixed girl hair.”

Different Hair, Different Standards.

The stylist’s goal for Jen was to create full, healthy looking hair. The stylist’s goal for Naja’s seemed to be aimed at finding a way to de-nappify her natural hair so it could shake and move.

Like Jen’s.

Jen’s hair goal was firmly within the bounds of what one could reasonably expect from Caucasian hair in its natural state. Naja’s hair goal was to transcend nappiness and come one step closer to a hair texture like Jen’s.

Here’s why that is problematic: Black hair is not the same as White hair. It doesn’t act the same, grow the same or look the same. And it is not supposed to. Like one of my heroes Tom Burrell says in his book Challenging the Myth of Black Inferiority (a book you seriously need to read), “Black people are not dark skinned White people.”

Black hair is nappy. By design and divine intention. (And if you don’t believe in divinity – by evolutionary design.)

Nappy hair has its own standard. That standard is not a brown version of the standard for Caucasian hair.

Nappy hair has its own rules. Those rules are not a darker version of Caucasian hair rules.

Nappy hair has its own needs. Those needs are not a negrofied version of Caucasian hair needs.

Time to Reject Rejection

I grow tired of this sentiment that the goal for nappy hair should be soft “loose” curls. I am irritated with the notion that in order to have natural hair, you have to start with what many consider a “good hair” curl pattern. I am frustrated by products that aim to convince us that in order to wear an afro, you need to be able to run your fingers through it.

This might be less of an issue if some in the nappy hair community did not in some ways also embrace (or at the very least encourage) those goals.

I have had numerous conversations with fellow sisters-in-nappiness over the years where this issue comes up. Though many of us choose to embrace our natural hair, a lot of us do so with a caveat.

That caveat says that the goal for nappiness is to have a Caucasoid version nappiness. Nappiness that isn’t too kinky. Nappiness that combs “easily.” Nappiness that is not permed, but is still a soft, curly, moving, flowing head of not-so-nappy hair.

My sisters, our hair is simply not a darker, nappier, kinkier version of Jen’s hair.

I’m really looking forward to the day when we can collectively reject the idea that there is a certain “type” of acceptable nappiness. I look forward to the day when my community will embrace the 3-inch tightly kinky afro, as much as they embrace it when it is in long, flowing, moving two-strand twists.

Natural sisters, we’ve come a long way from the days when one ran from the napps like they were running from the Klan. And that is wonderful.

But we have not yet been able to embrace the type of nappiness that is the complete antithesis of Jen’s hair. That down, home, tight, kinky hair pattern that shrivels into a quarter of its size when it hits moisture.

My sisters-in-the-napps, we have a lot to be happy about. But we still have a lot of work to do…

Onward in nappiness.

The White House ‘Fro

The Pursuit of Nappiness

By Mirielle Liong

Inspired by his race for the White House, Going-Natural.com offered President Obama the centerpiece of its exhibition “The Pursuit of Nappiness” as a gift for his birthday last year. The colorful framed portrait, chosen as a favorite during the exposition at the Casa Frela Gallery in Manhattan, shows a beautiful woman with a cheerful smile and a striking Afro.

Lurie Daniel-Favors, the woman pictured, is all but a stereotype beauty. While her dense afro strengthens her exceptional natural beauty, her resume underwrites her remarkable intellect. Daniel-Favors, a graduate from the New York University School of Law, was an associate at a well-known Law firm before founding the L.D Favors Law Group – a New York City practice with a partner. As a mother and a community organizer she also serves as the co-executive director of Sankofa Community Empowerment, Inc. (SCE), a non-profit to empower the racially and economically disenfranchised groups.

The picture was taken at the International African Arts Festival in Brooklyn, NY in July of 05 where Mireille Liong, founder of going-natural.com was shooting for what she calls her “Pursuit of Nappiness.” Intrigued by the outstanding coiffured heads she encountered at African American summer fairs, Liong started to photograph natural hairstyles in 04.

Lurie Daniel-Favors, The White House 'Fro

Why An Afro?

Lurie’s portrait was chosen for a number of reasons, Liong said. First, Lurie is beautiful and the afro is African hair at its best. Visitors of my exhibition clearly felt the same way but there are more historic and symbolic grounds behind my choice. The afro is a politicized style that came out of the civil rights era then dominated the fashion scene in the 70’s. It is the first hairstyle that ever allowed black women to take pride in their natural strands after believing for centuries that African hair was unacceptable.

Very much like the Afro, the community organizer Barack Obama stood for civil rights. As a candidate, his race for office was groundbreaking in so many ways, as was the Afro. The Afro left a lasing imprint on society and so will Barack Obama’s presidency. As the first black President, Barack Obama allowed African Americans to take pride in being an American on unprecedented levels after doubting for decades whether a Black man could ever be elected to the highest office.

There is also no better symbol than the afro to illustrate his campaign’s motto “Out of many we are one” that brought together so many different people from all walks of life, Liong continued. Like citizens of a nation, no two coils are the same but out of many uniquely shaped strands comes one powerful Afro.

About six months after sending the 20 by 24 framed birthday gift, Liong received a note of gratitude from the White House signed by First Lady Michelle Obama and the President. For more information about the photograph, Lurie Daniel-Favors and the Pursuit of Nappiness visit going-natural.com. Inquiries about the exhibition can be sent to info @ going-natural.com.

This article originally appeared in Daily Kos.

Behind the Napps…

Lurie Daniel-Favors, Esq. in an Afro State of Mind

In the summer of 2004 I was combing out my hair in preparation to attend the International African Arts Festival. As I rinsed the conditioner out of my thick and tangled nappy hair, I grew excited about the fun I knew we were about to have.

The festival, which takes place in Brooklyn, NY, is a major event. Every year thousands of people of African descent gather there in order to celebrate the arts, dance, family and community. Attending the festival was an annual tradition for my husband and I.

We reveled in the joy of having spaces where we could be surrounded by thousands of Black people who took pride in our history and culture.

That particular year and on that particular day, I was in an afro kind of mood. By that point, I had worn my hair natural for several years and like many Black women, I looked forward to being in environments like these. It was one of the few places where Black women could be as natural as we wanted to be and feel affirmed by those around us. It was one of the rare times of the year when big lips, noses and behinds were the preferred beauty norm. Rather than merely defying a European beauty standard, on these days and at events like the festival, Blackness and Black features were the beauty standard.

As many nappy-headed Black women can attest, there are not many spaces where wearing Black hair in its natural state will be rewarded with public displays of positivity. Because of that, events like the festival were as much encouraging as they were soothing to the soul.

I’d just washed my hair that morning and was stuck between wearing a twisted up-do or fluffing it out into an afro. But the sun was shining and it was going to be a gorgeous day – so I elected to rock the afro. Sometimes, a sista just needs to feel the power that comes from walking around under that big cloud of hair. Those are the days when a woman can revel in the powerful feeling that comes from being fully possessed of herself. I call these moments my “afro state of mind.” A quick smear of lip-gloss and some extra primping in the mirror and a short while later my husband and I headed out to Brooklyn’s Black Mecca.

While we walked through some of the vendor tables I was approached by a beautiful woman who was also wearing an afro and sporting a fancy camera.  Her name was Mireille Liong and she was a photographer from Surinam who arrived in Brooklyn by way of the Netherlands. She asked if she could take my picture and I happily obliged.

Now typically, most New Yorkers would shy away from random strangers asking to snap your photo. However, considering how few uplifting pictures there are that display Black women with natural hair – I was excited about the fact that someone out there actually wanted to feature us in that way.

Several years later I received a message from a friend of mine who said she had recently seen my picture at an exhibit featuring Black women with natural hair.  The exhibit displayed photos of a variety of Black women with a diverse arrangement of natural styles. One of the photos was the picture taken of me wearing the afro several years earlier at the festival. The picture had received rave reviews and the photographer was trying to locate me.

I reconnected with Mireille and learned that she owned a website, www.going-natural.com which was dedicated to women with natural hair. Its goal was to promote the beauty of Black women who embraced their hair as it came – nappy, beautiful and completely undefined by the traditional European standard of beauty. She mentioned that she and a number of other female business owners who catered to Black women were looking to do a photo shoot to showcase their products and asked me to be one of the models.

Now, at the time, watching Tyra Banks’ America’s Next Top Model was a favorite hobby of mine. So naturally I jumped at the opportunity. Considering the fact that I had never been in a professional photo shoot before – I was excited just to take the pictures.

But I had no idea that those photos would one day lead to so much more. Within a matter of weeks, the pictures were widely circulated across websites dedicated to Black women and natural hair. Their response was overwhelming.

Soon, other blogs and websites began using the images in their articles – which naturally lead to even more exposure. Thanks to the advent of social media, many of the articles and pictures featured on the websites allowed for comments from readers. The responses were overwhelmingly positive.  Black women – regardless of how they wore their hair – responded to the pictures and articles in a way that spoke volumes.

As I began reading through the comments, I noted that they that reflected a wide spectrum of thought surrounding the topic of Black hair. While I enjoyed reading the more positive comments, I was sadden by the fact that many expressed sentiments that I’d heard before like:

“She has the face for natural hair so going natural probably wasn’t an issue for her.”

“I would go natural – but only if my hair could look like that.”

“I love her hair on her. But I could never wear my hair to work like that.”

“I would wear my hair natural – but no Black man is ever going to marry a woman with hair like that.”

It was clear from the comments that no matter the texture or one’s political affiliation – as Black women, our hair is vitally central to how we see our selves.  It was also clear that we collectively lacked a framework for understanding how our hair – and society’s response to it – shapes who we are as Black women. This blog is designed to contribute to the development of that framework.  My hope is that my journey through life as a nappy-headed Black girl will add something more to the conversation.

Sound off in the comments: what have been some of your natural hair experiences? What do you wish people knew about natural hair?